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January 16, 2017 · 10 Comments

Striving vs. Abiding: Finding Intimacy with Christ

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Striving vs. Abiding: Finding Intimacy with ChristTo be, or not to be? No. That is not the question.

To DO, or to be? Now THAT is the question.

I’m sharing the moment when God identified a surprising struggle in me–in an area I thought was a strength of mine! I am goal-oriented… to a fault.

I run hard after good things, but in the end, I am still just running hard.

I have learned that a person’s strength can also become their weakness, when left unbridled. My goal-oriented nature has proven just that. I don’t even have to try to be a fixer or a planner. It happens without me realizing I am putting forth the effort.

In essence, I am a “doer” that can’t stop “doing.” What Jesus is revealing is that all this “doing” is getting in the way of His prize for me – intimacy with Him. And wouldn’t you know it? I am right where I need to be in my Chronological Bible to drive home the lesson!

Philippians 3:12-14 says,

Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

Due to my competitive nature, I relish this passage because I am ALL ABOUT doing, working and striving. I want to “press on” and “take hold.” Progress in any form thrills me! But what God is showing me is how this character trait is getting the best of me, how it is becoming a fault of mine, bringing me more harm than good.

As I am “doing” incessantly, it is hard for me to just “be”. Mind you I am “still” at times, but that doesn’t mean I have ceased working and striving. When I am reading the Word, it inspires me into action, making me want to understand immediately and apply it to my life. Or maybe I’m strategizing how to develop in ministry and use my time and gifts wiser. I’m the kind of person that thinks by putting forth MORE effort, I can achieve _________.

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That blank can be filled with an endless number of things and all of them GOOD. Yet, those goals can actually hinder the prize….

What does God want of me, FOR me the most? I believe He wants me to have more of Jesus.

More of His love (understanding it, receiving it, not attaining it).

More of His peace.

More of His perspective.

More of His strength.

More of His nature…

And how does all that happen?

I think it happens through intimacy with Christ. As I spend time in His presence, communing with Him, I understand Him better and become more like Him. Joy unfolds in His presence.

Jesus never had an air about Him that He was working hard at “life.” He simply abided, rested, and depended upon the Father. He was able to “do” by “being.”

This is my lesson. Stop doing so much and just “be”… with Him, enjoying Him, resting in Him, celebrating Him. His easy yoke and light burden are supposed to be MY reality! And yours! Are you like I am? Falling victim to working “at,” what we are supposed to enjoy, just by “being”?

We cannot let the enemy scheme us into effort for what is already ours by faith!

Jesus is the prize! Christ likeness, sanctification, fruitfulness, and faithfulness are all goals that will be produced through being more than doing. As goals pop in my mind, I remember they are all under God’s authority and responsibility. May we cease our “doing” and rest in “being”–so we can enjoy the greatest treasures!Save

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Gretchen Fleming
Gretchen Fleming

I am thrilled to follow hard after Him, just as David did in Psalm 63:8. The more I learn of Christ, the more I am passionate to partake of all that He is and offers. I love sharing Him with others, seeing God transform lives as only He can. Visit my blog or follow me on social media as I share truth relevant for a life that overcomes!

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  1. Dianne Thornton says

    January 17, 2017 at 9:35 AM

    Gretchen, I feel like we live in the same world. God is convicting me of this very thing. Your post is timely for me!

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    • Gretchen Fleming says

      February 11, 2017 at 1:31 PM

      I’m so glad Dianne! Amazing how universal some of His lessons are to many of us:) I am always grateful when He shows me the path to freedom.

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  2. Lisa notes says

    January 17, 2017 at 9:54 AM

    This is so true–> He simply abided, rested, and depended upon the Father. He was able to “do” by “being.”
    May it be so with us, too!

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    • Gretchen Fleming says

      February 11, 2017 at 1:32 PM

      Amen Lisa!! His living example gives us such valuable perspective:)

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  3. Tori Cole says

    January 17, 2017 at 10:37 PM

    This is so awesome. I am so like you, goal oriented. I love what you said that Jesus didn’t work hard at life. He was great at abiding. This is great for me right now.

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    • Gretchen Fleming says

      February 11, 2017 at 1:34 PM

      I’m so glad Tori! It was almost funny that moment when it dawned on me that Jesus never appeared to work hard at what He was called to do yet I was frazzled with so much less to do. I am glad we can laugh at ourselves at times! Lol

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  4. Charlie says

    January 18, 2017 at 9:10 AM

    This is so true, and I needed to be reminded of it today! Thank you!

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    • Gretchen Fleming says

      February 11, 2017 at 1:34 PM

      My pleasure Charlie and blessings to you today!

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  5. Lisa Ehrman says

    January 18, 2017 at 3:46 PM

    Wonderful post, especially for us driven to win. Thanks for sharing this testimony.

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    • Gretchen Fleming says

      February 11, 2017 at 1:37 PM

      My pleasure Lisa! Seems like I have to continually ask myself why am I acting like life is a competition? I don’t have to compete. Being goal oriented can be exhausting. Lol

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