This summer my husband and I ventured off to a bed and breakfast for some much needed time together. While looking at the plethora of books in the library, I stumbled upon The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian.
The next day (while sunbathing in the hammock), I read about specific prayers that we wives should be praying over our spouses. Instead of doing a book recap, I want to share the current prayers for my husband and hopefully inspire you to do the same.
Prayer = Transparency
In a moment of full disclosure… this has probably been one of the toughest seasons that we as a family have had to navigate. Our focus has shifted and instead of pulling together, we frequently pull apart.
While reading Omartian’s book, my eyes opened to the fact that this was occurring in my marriage, too. I had to make a decision and it started with prayer.
Prayer one: Priorities
Lord, I pray that ___________ will seek you first and your kingdom because your Word says that if we do that then all these things will be given to us.
I love how this prayer reflects Matthew 6:33, which says:
Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative and God-provisions. You’ll find your everyday human concerns will be met.” Matthew 6:33 | The Message
My husband is the leader of our family and so he bears the weight of being a great husband, loving father, wonderful provider, and the list goes on. If not careful, he will try to fulfill those roles within his own strength which can leads to frustration, anxiety and burnout.
All of those things can eventually trickle down into our families. So we must be diligent in covering our husbands in prayer, particularly in the area of their priorities.
Prayer two: Mind
Lord, remind _______ to cast his anxiety (worries) on you because you care for him.
God’s strong arm is on you: he’ll promote you at the right time. Love carefree before God, he is most careful with you.” 1 Peter 5:7 | The Message
Our husbands are not in this alone and they have not been built to carry the load by themselves. Their heavenly Father loves them and wants them to lean on Him. The root cause of anxiety is fear and fear is the opposite of love.
Let’s believe for our spouses to be free from fear and to walk in His love. When they do, we along with our children, business partners, office mates, etc will reap the benefits.
Prayer three: Focus
Lord it is so easy to get distracted by the pursuit of things, eventual disappointments and just life! Help _______ to keep his eyes fixed on you.
We must keep our eyes on Jesus, who leads us and makes our faith complete. He endured the shame of being nailed to a cross, because he knew later on he would be glad he did. Now he is seated at the right side of God’s throne. So keep your mind on Jesus, who put up with many insults from sinners. Then you won’t get discouraged and give up.” Hebrews 12:2-3 (CEV)
Jesus is our great example and endured a lot. In life, we will face good and bad times, but through it all, we must look to him as our source of encouragement and hope.
Prayer four: Leadership
Lord as ____________ leads our home, I pray that he would have the heart of a servant and that he would follow your lead for our family.
Our husbands are the fierce leaders of our home. We have been taught to submit and follow our husbands. Leadership for believers is about serving and putting others before oneself. Christ did that for us when He willingly died on the cross for our sins. The prayer for my husband simply comes from Ephesians 5:22-28.
Prayer five: Intimacy
Lord, help us to cling to one another and become one flesh as it says in Genesis 2:24-25 so we can please each other joyfully and without shame.
Intimacy in a marriage is very important and oftentimes an area that the enemy will try to attack to cause division. Division will create confusion which can lead to apathy, resentment and unspoken frustration. All of these things will hinder your marriage, prayers and impact for the kingdom. We must remember 1 Corinthians 16:20 that says we are not our own. We were bought with a price and to honor God with our bodies.
Bonus prayer: For the wives
Lord, I ask that you would help me to live out Ephesians 5:22 and 33 by submitting, respecting, supporting and understanding my husband in Jesus name, Amen.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
We need to pray specific, Biblical prayers to be the wife God has called us to be for our husbands as well. Put these prayers to work, trust God and love your husband.
Hi, my name is Felicia Tucker, and I am a wife and mom of three. My world consists of fostering a healthy marriage and nurturing my children, while integrating that into my career. I am learning how to enjoy the small moments, not sweat the small stuff, and go to sleep with the toys strewn over the living room floor.
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